How Often do You Despair…
My Kid’s Meltdowns are Making Me Miserable!
Any parent who has an emotionally intense kid knows that the constant tears and tantrums can take over your life. It’s not only your child that’s affected – but your entire family! We can turn your frustration around and show you how to reduce meltdowns from happening all the time to hardly ever.
It’s been a long day and you’re exhausted. All you want is for the kids to go nicely to bed so you can have some quiet time to yourself before you also turn in for the night.
But of course, things don’t go this way – in fact, they rarely do.
Instead of peaceful solitude, you are greeted with a kicking, screaming and totally relentless monster. He doesn’t want to go to bed, he doesn’t want to go to school tomorrow, and he definitely doesn’t take kindly to you telling him that she needs to do both.
If this were the only stressor of the day, maybe you could handle it – but it’s not. Today you’ve already had to deal with … a teacher telling you that he keeps picking fights; a tantrum in the middle of the store when you said he couldn’t have the candy bar; and a hole in the wall that wasn’t there this morning!
Something’s gotta give, right?
The thing is, you know that this is part of your child’s challenges, but knowing that others are in the same boat fails to offer much comfort when your kid’s a hot mess. Or when you are. Even though you know you should keep your cool, it’s getting harder and harder to do.
- Feel exhausted by your child’s constant mood swings?
- Yell at your kids more than you talk with them?
- Constantly walk around on eggshells, never sure what’s going to trigger a tantrum?
- Feel ashamed and embarrassed that people are judging you as a parent?
- Worry that your kid is never going to grow up to be a rational, successful adult?
Then you’re in exactly the right place.
Because you’re not alone. Even though sometimes it feels like you are.
I don’t know what to do, I feel so helpless.
Boy, have we heard this line before – actually it wasn’t so long ago that we regularly felt like this ourselves! Parents frequently come to us looking for help when they are about to reach breaking point. Although we are thrilled that they are finally seeking the help they need, we only wish they had found us sooner. No one deserves frayed nerves and living at your wit’s end as badly as we’ve seen them!
If you’re reading this now and you’ve yet to reach the edge before you truly SNAP – we’re so pleased you made it to this page. You are absolutely in the right place, as an ounce of prevention is definitely worth a pound of cure. Now is a great time to learn how to help your child manage emotional intensity and impulsivity.
But if you’re already feeling like you’ve gone over the edge, then have no fear. You’re not alone, and it’s going to be ok, really. We promise we can offer help, guidance and support.
We know you’re sick of the tantrums. You want this feeling of chaos to stop, but you don’t know how to help your child get a grip on things that should be simple.
It’s not just that. You may also be sick of the kind of parent you feel you are now – the nagging, screaming kind that you promised yourself you would never be.
When you catch yourself losing your temper and yelling for the umpteenth time that day, you may realize that not only are your child’s meltdowns bad news for her, but they are also damaging for you and your well being. We hear many parents tell us they have lost who they are, and that they don’t like the person they’re becoming…
We often hear:
I don’t like myself like this
We know! We weren’t so keen on ourselves either at one stage. Elaine was feeling lost and overwhelmed, and Diane was getting angry.
We were caught in the never-ending vicious cycle. You know how it goes:
Her meltdown rubs off on you → you act stressed-out or irritable → which makes her even worse!
We’re sure it’s in every parenting manual everywhere that you should show love and patience to your child at all times…But then why does she have to make it so hard?!
When your child is constantly yelling, being rude, talking back, picking fights, making impulsive and even dangerous decisions…yeah, of course you love her. But liking her can sure feel like a challenge!
- Your daughter could manage her intense emotions on her own, without taking it out on you
- Your son learned to handle frustration without melting into a puddle of tears (or fists)
- You had the tools to navigate situations without losing your own cool and taking it out on your kids, which you know only makes it worse
This can come true, and it’s easier than you think!
So what can I do about it?
You need coping strategies, and you need them fast!
Parents are always coming to us looking for ‘strategies’ (we’ve got bags of ‘em, and they really work!) But before we get into the nitty gritty, believe us, the best way to start managing your kid’s ADHD is to first understand what’s underneath.
Just like trying to fix a car – a coat of paint isn’t going to do anything profound, you have to look under the hood and understand how the engine works in order to discover the root of the problem.
The good news? We’ve done the legwork for you. All you need is to learn how to personalise this information to your child.
Noticing patterns in your child’s behaviour is the first step. So: WHAT triggers a meltdown? WHERE does it most often happen and WHEN? WHY might she be acting like this? If you can identify these points, you will be on your way to learning HOW to avoid this behavior in the future.
There is one question that will get the ball rolling and help you understand everything…
Is it Naughty or Neurological?
The vast majority of the time, it’s likely that the behavior you are witnessing is neurological, and is something your child simply can’t help.
And here’s a little known truth for you: Although challenges with emotional management may be improved for some kids with prescription medications, long term success requires that kids learn to manage their emotional intensity and impulsivity. Medication has been proven to be more effective when parent management is part of the treatment plan.
Before we go any further, let us introduce ourselves
Who are we, and why are we telling you all this?
We are Diane and Elaine, certified coaches, experts in parenting complex kids, and the founders of ImpactADHD. We are also parents of a combined 6 children between our two families with ADD and ADHD and a number of related challenges.
Believe us, we’ve been through a lot, and are still smiling (most of the time)! We now understand that despite the challenges of having a kid with ADHD, most of our earlier fears for our kids were completely unfounded.
Over the past few years we have become sought after as the “voice for parents” in the ADHD world. We have also been approached for guidance or contributions by national resources such as the American Academy of Pediatrics, Attention and ADDitude magazines, and other national press. Elaine serves as a columnist for the Huffington Post, and on the National Board of Directors of CHADD (Children and Adults with ADD). In fact, in our VERY first year, we were awarded ‘Innovative Program’ status by CHADD!
We know firsthand that the constant meltdowns and dramas that are happening in your household can take over your life. We also know that if we (who each hit rock bottom in different ways!) can turn things around for ourselves and for our kids, then you can too!
We understand that having a child with ADD can be a drain on all your positive emotions, your time and of course your wallet.
But your life doesn’t have to carry on his way. You can decide to change it.
Minimize Meltdowns: Home Study Program for Parents
Minimize Meltdowns is a unique 12 module program that has been designed to radically improve the lives of parents dealing with emotionally intense kids. With our reality based training and coaching, parents of kids with ADHD and related challenges learn to target specific problem areas, calming the chaos and quickly allowing them to become happier, more confident and successful.
Here’s what you’re going to get…
- Understand how to use the Parenting Action Model to help you on every step of your journey, one challenge at a time.
- Learn the four Critical Response Areas to choose from when tackling any problem.
- Understand what emotionality and impulsivity have to do with ADHD and Executive Function, and the importance of specifically teaching your child self management.
Educate and Understand
- How to identify when you’re dealing with emotionality or impulsivity, so you know how best to respond to the situation.
- Understanding what’s really behind your child’s emotional intensity, and how you can use that knowledge to redirect challenging behaviors.
- Identify the typical (and sometimes surprising) ways that ADHD and its related challenges show up as emotional and impulsive behaviors.
Setting the Stage for Success
- Rather than trying to eliminate emotional responses, think in terms of minimizing the occurrence and intensity of your child’s meltdowns.
- Learn two different approaches to minimizing meltdowns and handling outbursts, including how and when to put each of them into action.
- Strategies for fostering resilience in your child (and in yourself) so that there are fewer breakdowns when the going gets tough.
Four Critical Response Areas
- Understand the relationship between brain activation and regulating moods and managing impulsivity.
- Learn how engaging the brain helps to optimize brain function, enhance mood regulation and counter-act the neuro-biological challenges of ADHD.
- Explore 6 different ways to activate the brain for maximum effectiveness, including both traditional and alternative approaches – but beware the snake oil!
- Understand the power of positive parenting, with tips to make it easy in the face of negativity.
- Six strategies for positivity, including how to use compassion to heal strained family relationships.
- The importance of not taking things personally, and how to use good humor instead!
- The difference between shifting expectations (or setting realistic or appropriate expectations) and lowering them.
- The importance of letting go of past expectations for how parenthood should be by a certain age, and pacing yourself for long-term success.
- How to hold your child accountable for her actions without causing conflict – two vital things to teach your kids.
Using Systems & Structures
- How to use systems and structures to actively prevent meltdowns.
- The specific strategy of using TACT for prevention: Triggers, Avoidance, Consistency, Transitions.
- Example of simple family rules that are effective and easy to implement.
Using Systems and Structures to Manage Yourself
- How to use systems and structures to actively manage meltdowns.
- The four steps process for escaping the stress cycle when temper runs high, and learning to model this for your child.
- How to own your own emotions (or what to do after you’ve lost your cool and need to repair the situation because, sometimes, you’re going to lose your cool, too).
Using Systems and Structures to Manage Your Child
- How to assess the scene in the heat of the moment to decide the best management technique.
- Understanding when to let a tantrum happen so you can use it as a learning opportunity.
- WHAT to do when a tantrum or meltdown happens when you are in a high pressure environment.
Reviewing What You’ve Learned
- Review the top strategies for success using the 5 Step Parenting Action Model
- The importance of celebrating all victory’s – large and small, because the solutions to your child’s challenges are found in your child’s successes.
- Reminder of the 4 critical response areas and how and when to use each one.
- Looking to the future with five steps to create an Action Plan.
- How to set yourself up for success when creating your action plan so that you can stick to it, and get results!
- Exercises to guide you to create your action plan, and carry out your goals.
Designed for busy parents just like you
We know that when you have a kid with complex issues, time to yourself feels like a precious and rare luxury. If you’re emotionally hanging by a thread as well, thinking about anything extra seems impossible.
This is why we have designed Minimize Meltdowns to fit seamlessly into your life, and to be as enjoyable as possible.
The course is online, meaning you can tune in whenever and wherever you have access to the internet. You can also watch the modules as many times as you like.
Parents often tell us that they look forward to logging in for the next session – and this is music to our ears. We created the program hoping it would make learning fun and interesting, and never, ever a chore.
The absolute best part? The changes you will see in your child. Even after the first module, you will have a better idea of how to handle difficult situations, and you will feel confident that you know you are doing the best by your child – and the best for you and your whole family, too!
Still think you don’t have time? Check out what this one parent wrote to tell us:
“An amazing thing happens with coaching: I can barely manage to make the time to do it, but amazingly it ends up creating more space in my life overall.”
– Heidi Z, GA
Sounds just what I need, but how much
will this cost me?
Have you heard of the book by Robin Sharma, ‘The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari’?
We have a point, we promise… and it doesn’t assume that you can afford a Ferrari!
There’s a great line in the book we want to share. It tells the story of Julian Mantle – a hot shot lawyer who has a health crisis and ends up soul searching in India. He goes to live with a group of monks in the Himalayas for spiritual teaching, and underwent one month (672 hours) of training. He says:
“Six hundred and seventy-two hours of inner work to profoundly improve every waking moment of the rest of your life is quite a bargain, don’t you think? Investing in yourself is the best investment you will ever make. It will not only improve your life, it will improve the lives of all those around you.”
This is how we want you to view Minimize Meltdowns – as “the best investment you will ever make.”
Thankfully, there’s no need to set aside 672 hours to do this. If you commit 30 minutes per module, you can shift your family dynamics forever in just 6 hours. If you go the extra mile and do all the additional reading, in 1 hour per module — that’s just 12 hours — you can “profoundly improve every waking moment of the rest of your life.”
And best of all — you can do this entirely at your own pace, and at times that suit YOU.
In these less than a dozen hours you will learn how to make pragmatic, information-based decisions that have the power to dramatically change your life, your child’s life, and the lifestyle of your entire family.
We chose to make Minimize Meltdowns an online course for two reasons:
- First, because we want our programs to be accessible to everyone, regardless of location.
- Second, because the smaller overhead means we have the ability to price it with affordability in mind. It is quite simply the lowest you’ll ever pay for such in-depth information of this quality.
The cost of Minimize Meltdowns is just $247. When you think about it, this is the cost of about 50 daily Starbucks drinks — pocket change to many, and much less than a flight to India. (Ha!) It’s also less than the cost of attending a weekend conference.
If that doesn’t sound like a good investment, then consider that it’s less than the cost of one private-pay hour spent with a pediatric psychiatrist!
Take advantage of our 100% risk free guarantee, and minimize your worry – as well as your kids’ meltdowns!
Our plea to you, as fellow parents:
- Don’t allow cracks to form in your health and well-being
- Don’t cut corners in bringing up your child
- Don’t let your relationships with your family suffer
- Don’t allow negativity, self-doubt and confusion sabotage your relationship with your child
- Don’t let money be a deciding factor in this
Any sensible person should think through important purchases, and a program like this is no different. But since there is literally no risk in doing so, we urge you to simply give yourself a chance and just try Minimize Meltdowns
We are so confident that this will be a life-changing experience for you that we offer a no-risk 30 day guarantee. So, if you’re not seeing the changes you wanted – simply let us know and we will refund every cent.
We want to teach you how to tap into the mind of your child, clarify the challenges, identify trigger areas, learn to calm emotionality and impulsivity and start living the enjoyable life you have always dreamed of.
You only live once – and it’s way too short to be spent struggling. Give Minimize Meltdowns a try today!
“ImpactADHD®’s Minimize Meltdowns is brilliant. The content is strong and just what parents need to know. There’s a lot of great information, and it’s broken down into small enough chunks that it’s easy to use. The format that the material is delivered is also excellent, especially compared to other programs I’ve tried. From an online user experience, it’s straight-forward, very well done and easy to do in short segments and come back to it later. I don’t think you could make it any more simple. Overall, the program is just brilliant!”
— Cynthia C, London, England
“The questions in Minimize Meltdowns are thought-provoking and the message is getting through — there is hope! The interface is easy and it is broken down into small enough pieces so the pace is working for me. I don’t have to read 750 pages while I’m trying to implement these things – it’s working!”
— Aimee T, Virginia
“The class targeted specific information that was easy to understand, provided depth, and allowed for participation to help with application of the concepts.”
— Faye B
Did you know?
There’s been a lot of new research in the last 5-10 years FINALLY making the link between ADHD and emotionality — prior to this it was simply not considered to be connected.
Dr. Russell Barkley has done a lot of research on this. You may want to check out this video where he explains the differences in the brains of those with ADHD that cause the emotionality you’ve been experiencing.
These symptoms are aspects of executive function that people don’t realize are critical to being able to organize yourself. When you combine this with low frustration tolerance, many parents and kids end up in screaming matches – which are not fun for anyone!
In Minimize Meltdowns, we help you understand what’s actually going on. We talk about the stress cycle and how a “triggered” brain can’t really focus, we teach strategies for managing these situations, for kids and ALSO for parents — because we know you are frustrated beyond belief!
Our Promise to You
We are so happy that you’ve found this page, and we really hope you’ll give us the opportunity to help you.
We know it probably all sounds too good to be true, especially if you feel like you have already tried everything. But here’s the thing. If you give yourself just a bit of time to learn from us in this program — the results for your child’s future and your well-being will be astounding. We promise it will be the best time you’ve ever spent to become the parent you want to be.
Exhausted? Frustrated? Overwhelmed? Tired of dealing with this stuff? Get ready to change that!
We SO look forward to welcoming you!
With all our heart and soul,
P.S. If you have read this far, then chances are you are feeling the pull and wanting to give us a go. All we ask is that you don’t procrastinate – decide you are worth it now!
P.P.S. We meant what we said before – we are so confident that Minimize Meltdowns will be a life changing experience for you that we offer a no-risk guarantee. If you complete the program and feel like you haven’t gotten any value from the training, let us know within 30 days of the program end and we will happily refund every penny.
Profound Change Made Simple
Just 12 modules and unlimited positive changes to your child’s life, (not to mention yours) that will last a lifetime. You will be amazed by how a small investment of your time now can do so much for your whole family in the long run.
Fits into your life
Even the busiest, most worn-out parent can find the time to watch Minimize Meltdowns. If you’re pressed for time, you can even just listen — while you brush your teeth, take a bath, cook dinner, squeeze in a work out, or run a carpool… you can do it, and it can change everything. Even if it does feel like an effort to find the time – trust us, it will be worth it!
From Parents, to Parents
Our personal understanding of what it’s really like to have kids with ADHD is at the heart of our coaching. We understand what you are going through, and know that big changes are for you AND your whole family. Get ready to kiss those tantrums goodbye!
In case you were wondering…
Here are some common questions we get:
Q. What do I get when I join the program?
A: As a Minimize Meltdowns parent, you will:
- Have access to 12 fantastic modules that are packed full of tools, techniques and strategies to help you kick your kids meltdowns into the history books and snap them shut!
- Experience a newfound confidence as a parent with a better understanding of your child’s condition and how to help him/her handle it.
- Receive our weekly emails, guiding you through the program with additional articles of note and special tips.
- Have access to four months of monthly group Parenting Lifeline’ Q & A sessions.
- Have access to ImpactADHD’s private online members community, which is the ideal place to meet fellow parents and discuss your experiences — confidentially. This is also where you will be able to access the recordings of our weekly sessions.
- Complete exercises to guide you through the program.
- Learn in the comfort of your own home, and re-listen to the sessions as often as you wish!
Q. How is this different to ImpactADHD’s other coaching?
A: This is the first program we developed together – and it’s quickly become a classic for managing the emotional intensity and impulsivity of complex kids! It’s been phenomenally popular, and the feedback has been amazing. We’re guessing that since this was the first program we created, it is packed full of the most fundamental problems we had experienced as parents of kids with ADHD — which is what makes it an incredibly valuable resource for parents suffering (as we did) from the constant emotional stress that can take over your life.
Q. How much does it cost?
A: The cost of Minimize Meltdowns is only $247. The online nature of the course means we have been able to make this extremely affordable, with the hope that we can reach as many families as possible.
The cost of visiting a therapist is frequently in the region of $200 per hour, and attending a conference frequently adds up to hundreds or thousands of dollars (depending on location). Either way, for the information you’ll get in a course like this, you could end up paying in the region of $1200 (plus babysitting, etc.). Minimize Meltdowns is a much more modest investment for the same quality training you’d receive at a conference or in a therapist’s office. Given that you can learn from home, you don’t have to worry about childcare costs (or the stress of leaving your ADHD child at home!), travel costs or traffic woes, this is a much more efficient and effective investment of your time and money!
Q. How long is each module?
A: The videos in each module are between 5 and 20 minutes long, depending on the content. There are exercises to complete, coaching questions to guide you, and additional reading and webinars that are optional, so you can expect to spend an average of 30 to 60 minutes on each module (more if you’re an over-achiever).
Q. What do I need to prepare beforehand?
A: You may wish to have a pen and paper beside you to make notes, but this is not essential, and indeed, not ideal if you plan to listen on the go! Besides, you’ll answer the coaching questions directly on the computer, so really all you need is internet access and a willingness to make big changes.
Q. Who are Elaine and Diane?
A: Elaine Taylor-Klaus and Diane Dempster are parenting coaches and mothers who happen to have 6 kids with ADD/ADHD and a number of other related issues between them.
Unfortunately, when their kids were first diagnosed with challenges, the kind of support that would have helped them was not available. This is what inspired them to co-found ImpactADHD, as they recognised a huge need for support that makes a real difference for parents. They hope that no parent ever has to go through this alone – not when they know they can do something to help!
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Q. My child has not been diagnosed with ADD or ADHD. Can I still attend?
A: Sure! We welcome parents of what we like to call “complex” kids – children with ADHD or related challenges. 70% of kids with ADD have a number of different co-existing issues, and these strategies work for all of them. So whether ADHD is suspected, diagnosed, or not even likely, if you have a “complex” kid, you probably know what we mean – and this is definitely for you.
Q. If I don’t find this useful, is there a guarantee?
A: Yes, we offer a no risk guarantee. If, after the program you don’t feel like you have gotten value from it, let us know within 30 days of the program end, at TheTeam@ImpactADHD.com and your money will be cheerfully refunded. Every penny.