It’s been a long day and you’re exhausted. All you want is for the kids to go to bed so you can have some quiet time …and then maybe get some sleep!
But of course, things don’t usually work that way – in fact, they rarely do.
Instead of peaceful solitude, you never know if you’re going to get Dr. Jekyll or Mr. Hyde. Your child doesn’t want to go to bed, he doesn’t want to go to school tomorrow, and he definitely doesn’t want you telling him what to do.
If this were the only stressor of the day, maybe you could handle it – but it’s not.
Something’s gotta give, right?
The thing is, you know that this is part of your child’s challenges, but that doesn’t offer much comfort when your kid’s a hot mess. Or when you are. Even though you know you should keep your cool, it’s getting harder and harder to do.
- Feel exhausted by your child’s constant mood swings?
- Yell at your kids more than you wish you did?
- Constantly walk around on eggshells, never sure what’s going to trigger a tantrum?
- Feel ashamed and embarrassed, feeling judged as a parent?
- Worry that your kid is never going to grow up to be a rational, successful adult?
Then you’re in exactly the right place.
“I don’t know what to do, I feel helpless.”
Boy, have we heard this before –Parents frequently come to us looking for help when they are about to reach a breaking point. If you’re reading this now and you want to do something before you SNAP – NOW the time to take action. Learn how to help your child manage emotional intensity and impulsivity — while you’re still calm enough to model it for them.
And if you’re already feeling like you’ve gone over the edge more times than you’d like to admit — have no fear. You’re not alone. It can still be ok. Truly.
We know you’re sick of the tantrums. You want this feeling of chaos to stop, but you don’t know how to help your child get a grip on things that should be simple.
It’s not just that. You may also be tired of being the kind of parent you promised yourself you would never be — nagging, or screaming, or both.
I don’t like myself like this…
We know! AND we’ve been there! Elaine was feeling lost and overwhelmed (a self-described “neurotic mom”), and Diane was getting angry and frustrated (a self-described “yelling mom”).
We were caught in the never-ending vicious cycle.
- Their meltdowns rub off on you →
- you act stressed-out or irritable →
- which makes them even worse!
We’re sure it’s in every parenting manual everywhere that you should show love and patience to your child at all times…But then, why does it have to be so hard?!
- Your son could manage his intense emotions on his own, without taking it out on you
- Your daughter learned to handle frustration without melting into a puddle of tears (or fists)
- You had the tools to navigate situations without losing your cool and taking it out on your kids (which you know only makes it worse)
This can come true — it’s easier than you think!
Parents usually come to us looking for ‘strategies’ (we’ve got lots of ‘em, and they really work!). But before we get into the nitty gritty, believe us, the best way to start managing your kid’s emotional intensity is to first understand what’s underneath it all.
The good news? We’ve done the legwork for you. And we will give you immediate ways to learn how to figure out what’s going on for your child, so you can apply strategies that work.
And here’s one more little tidbit for you: Although challenges with emotional management may be improved for some kids with prescription medications, it’s only a part of the puzzle. Long term success happens when kids learn to manage their emotional intensity and impulsivity. Medication has been proven to be more effective when parent management is part of the treatment plan.
Before we go any further, let us introduce ourselves
We are Diane and Elaine, certified parent coaches and the founders of ImpactADHD®, now ImpactParents. We are also parents of a combined 6 children between our two families with ADHD, anxiety, and a number of related challenges. We’ve been through a lot with our kids, and are still smiling (most of the time)! We now understand that despite the challenges facing kids with emotional intensity and impulsivity, with support they can grow into amazing young adults.
Over the past few years we have become sought after as the “voice for parents” in the ADHD world. We have been approached for guidance or contributions by national resources such as the American Academy of Pediatrics, Attention and ADDitude magazines, and other national press. Elaine served on the National Board of Directors of CHADD (Children and Adults with ADD), and is now on their Public Policy Committee. In our VERY first year (2011) we were awarded ‘Innovative Program’ status by CHADD, and two of our programs were recognized in 2017 and 2018.
We know firsthand that parents of children with ADHD often feel isolated and overwhelmed. It seems as if there is no one else out there who is experiencing the level of heartache and frustration that our kids’ challenges cause.
We understand that having an emotionally intense child can be a drain on your emotions, your time, and (of course), your wallet.
But it doesn’t have to be that way…
Minimize Meltdowns: Home Study Program for Parents
Minimize Meltdowns is a unique 12 module program that has been designed to radically improve the lives of parents dealing with emotionally intense kids, and those who struggle with impulsivity. With our reality based training and coaching, parents learn to target specific problem areas, calming the chaos and quickly allowing everyone to become happier, more confident and successful.
Here’s what you’re going to get…
Module 1: Take Aim
- Understand how to use the Impact Action Model as a guide in tackling all of your challenges, one at a time.
- Learn the four Critical Response Areas to choose from when tackling any problem.
- Understand what emotionality and impulsivity have to do with Executive Function, and how to help your child understand the importance of self management.
Module 2: Educate and Understand
- Learn to identify when you’re dealing with emotionality or impulsivity, so you know how to best respond to the situation.
- Understand what’s really behind your child’s emotional intensity, and how you can use that knowledge to redirect challenging behaviors.
- Identify the typical (and sometimes surprising) ways that your child’s challenges show up as emotional and impulsive behaviors.
Module 3: Setting the Stage for Success
- Learn to think in terms of minimizing the frequency and intensity of your child’s meltdowns, instead of eliminating emotional responses.
- Learn two different approaches to minimizing meltdowns and handling outbursts, plus how and when to put each of them into action.
- Gain clear strategies for fostering resilience in your child (and in yourself) so that there are fewer breakdowns when the going gets tough
Module 4: Four Cornerstones (Critical Response Areas)
- Understand what brain activation has to do with regulating moods and managing impulsivity.
- Learn how engaging the brain helps to optimize brain function, enhance mood regulation and counteract your child’s neuro-biological challenges.
- Explore 6 different ways to activate the brain for maximum effectiveness, including traditional and alternative approaches – and beware the snake oil!
Module 5: Positive Parenting
- Understand the purpose and impact of positive parenting, with tips to apply helpful responses in the face of negative behaviors.
- Learn six strategies for responding positively, including healing strained family relationships.
- Explore ways to stop taking things personally, and how you can use good humor instead!
Module 6: Shifting Expectations
- Identify the difference between shifting expectations (or setting realistic and appropriate expectations) and lowering them.
- Explore how to let go of other’s expectations for how things “should be” by a certain age, and pace yourself for long-term success.
- Learn methods to hold your kids accountable for their actions without escalating emotions and causing conflict.
Module 7: Using Systems & Structures – to Help Your Kids
- Understand how to actually prevent meltdowns by using systems and structures more effectively.
- Learn a fundamental strategy for prevention — (hint: use T.A.C.T.)
- Explore some sample family rules that are simple, effective and easy to implement.
Module 8: Using Systems and Structures – to Help Yourself
- Understand how to actually manage meltdowns by using systems and structures more effectively.
- Learn the four steps process for escaping the stress cycle when tempers run high, and how to model this for your child.
- Explore how to regulate your own emotions (or what to do after you’ve lost your cool and need to repair the situation — because, sometimes, you’re going to lose your cool, too).
Module 9: Using Systems and Structures for Management
- Understand how to assess the situation to decide the best management technique — in the heat of the moment.
- Explore when to let a tantrum happen so you can use it as a learning opportunity.
- Figure out how to respond when a tantrum or meltdown happens when you are in a high pressure environment.
Module 10: Reviewing What You’ve Learned
- Review the top strategies for success using the 5 Step Impact Action Model
- Reflect on the importance of celebrating all victory’s – large and small, because the solutions to your child’s challenges are found in your child’s successes.
- Reminder of the 4 Cornerstones (critical response areas) and how and when to use them.
Module 11: Moving Forward
- Look to the future with five steps to create an Action Plan.
- Understand how to set yourself up for success when creating your action plan so that you can stick to it, and get results!
- Explore exercises that will guide you to create your action plan and carry out your goals.
Designed for busy parents like you
We know that when you have a kid with complex issues, time to yourself feels like a precious and rare luxury. Thinking about anything extra seems impossible — especially when you feel like you’re barely hanging by a thread.
This is why we designed Minimize Meltdowns to be as easy to use as possible — with a promise of significant results. (And we take our promises seriously.)
The course is online, meaning you can tune in whenever and wherever you have access to the internet. You can also watch the modules as many times as you like — forever. AND, each module is only 5-15 minutes long. Seriously, they’re shorter than the average podcast!
The absolute best part? The changes you will see in your child will start immediately. After the first module, you will have a better idea of how to handle difficult situations, and you will feel confident that you know you are doing the best by your child – and the best for you and your whole family, too!
Still think you don’t have time? Check out what this client wrote to tell us:
“An amazing thing happens with coaching: I can barely manage to make the time to do it, but amazingly it ends up creating more space in my life overall.”
– Heidi Z, GA
Sounds like what I need, but how much
will this cost me?
Investing in yourself is the best investment you will ever make. It will not only improve your life, it will improve the lives of all those around you.
We chose to make Minimize Meltdowns an online course for two reasons:
- First, because we want our programs to be accessible to everyone, regardless of location.
- Second, because smaller overhead lets us price it as affordably as possible. It is quite simply the lowest you’ll ever pay for such in-depth information of this quality.
We want Minimize Meltdowns to be “the best investment you will ever make” because we know you don’t have any time or energy to waste — and you need to invest in support that is affordable, accessible and effective.
In terms of time…
Each module will take 5 to 15 minutes to review, plus any extra time you commit (depending on your learning style and interest in all the “extra bonus material”).
You can do this entirely at your own pace, and at times that suit YOU.
Through 12 modules (2+ hours of videos plus 1 fabulous bonus hour!) you will learn how to make pragmatic, information-based decisions that have the power to dramatically change your life, your child’s life, and the lifestyle of your entire family.
In terms of cost…
Minimize Meltdowns is only $147, (think of 35 visits to Starbucks, or 10 outings to the movies). It’s a whole lot less expensive than the cost of attending a weekend training conference.
And if that doesn’t sound like a good investment, then consider that it’s less than the cost of an average private-pay hour spent with a pediatric psychiatrist!
Take advantage of our 100% risk free guarantee.
Minimize your worry – AND your kids’ meltdowns!
We know it’s hard to make a commitment to something like this, and as fellow parents we just want to encourage you to be pro-active:
- Don’t allow cracks in communication to become major problems
- Don’t let your relationships with your family suffer
- Don’t allow negativity, self-doubt and confusion to sabotage your relationship with your child
We want this decision to be a “no-brainer” for you — because we know it can make a profound difference in your life. AND, since there is literally no risk in doing so, we urge you to simply give yourself a chance — just try Minimize Meltdowns.
We are so confident that this will be a life-changing experience for you that we offer a no-risk 30 day guarantee. So, if you’re not seeing benefits or learning something useful – simply let us know and we will refund every cent.
“Elaine, Elaine, Elaine!!!!!!! Diane, Diane, Diane!!!! It worked. But this is big, BIG, B-I-G for me!
I accessed the Minimize Meltdowns website on my iPad through Safari and then hit the button to “throw the video” to the apple TV that is hooked up to our living room TV. The video plays beautifully and then I still have the course screen on my iPad to move forward through the course.
WHY is this so big… because my husband and I can watch these together and discuss, while sitting comfortably on the couch, rather than hunched over a computer screen or the iPad. This is where we are most comfortable in making big decisions and having our discussions.
Sound quality and picture quality was excellent.
Thank you both!!!!”
— Michelle S, Nebraska
“Minimize Meltdowns has helped me in so many ways, from learning more about ADHD, to helping develop skills for my toolbox, to help me help my children.
The skills I am developing help with not just my children who have ADHD, but with all people that I interact with.”
— Valerie D, Indiana
“My 14 year old son is now able to live a life almost free of intense behaviors. I mean, he is a work in progress, but he is not held captive by the behaviors anymore. The Minimize Meltdowns course was nothing short of a godsend.”
— Tami M, MA
Our Promise to You
We are so happy that you’ve found this page, and we really hope you’ll give us the opportunity to help you.
We know it probably all sounds too good to be true, especially if you feel like you have already tried everything.
But here’s the thing. If you give yourself just a bit of time to learn from us in this program — the results for your child’s future and your well-being will be astounding. We promise it will be the best time you’ve ever spent to become the parent you want to be.
Exhausted? Frustrated? Overwhelmed? Tired of dealing with this stuff? Get ready to change that!
We SO look forward to welcoming you!
With all our heart and soul,
P.S. If you have read this far, then chances are you are feeling the pull and wanting to give us a go. All we ask is that you don’t procrastinate – decide you are worth it now!
P.P.S. And remember — we meant what we said before – we are so confident that Minimize Meltdowns will be a life changing experience that we offer a no-risk guarantee. If you complete the program and feel like you haven’t gotten any value from the training, let us know within 30 days of the program end and we will happily refund every penny.
In case you were wondering…
Here are some common questions we get:
Q. How is this different from ImpactParent’s other programs?
A: This is the first program we developed together – and it’s quickly become a classic for managing the emotional intensity and impulsivity of complex kids! It’s been phenomenally popular, and the feedback has been amazing. Since this was the first program we created, it is packed full of the most fundamental problems we had experienced as parents of emotionally intense kids — which is what makes it an incredibly valuable resource for parents suffering (as we did) from the constant emotional stress that can take over your life.
Q. How much does it cost?
A: The cost of Minimize Meltdowns is only $147. The online nature of the course means we have been able to make this extremely affordable, with the hope that we can reach as many families as possible.
The cost of visiting a professional in person is frequently around $200 per hour, and attending a conference frequently adds up to hundreds or thousands of dollars (depending on location). Either way, for the information you’ll get in a course like this, you could end up paying in the region of $1200 (plus babysitting, etc.). Minimize Meltdowns is a much more modest investment for the same quality training you’d receive at a conference or in a therapist’s office. Given that you can learn from home, you don’t have to worry about childcare costs (or the stress of leaving your ADHD child at home!), travel costs or traffic woes, this is a much more efficient and effective investment of your time and money!
Q. How long is each module?
A: The videos in each module are between 5 and 20 minutes long, depending on the content. There are exercises to complete, coaching questions to guide you, and additional reading and webinars that are optional, so you can expect to spend an average of 15 to 60 minutes on each module (depending on your level of engagement).
Q. Who are Elaine and Diane?
A: Elaine Taylor-Klaus and Diane Dempster are certified coaches and mothers who have 6 kids with complex issues between their two families.
Unfortunately, when their kids were first diagnosed with challenges, the kind of support that would have helped them was not available. This is what inspired them to co-found ImpactADHD® (now ImpactParents), as they recognized a huge need for practical support that makes a real difference for parents. They hope that no parent ever has to raise their complex kids alone – not when they know they can do something to help!
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Q. My child has not been diagnosed with ADD or ADHD. Can I still attend?
A: Sure! We welcome parents of what we like to call “complex” kids – children with ADHD or related challenges. 70% of kids with ADHD have a number of different co-existing issues, and these strategies work for all of them. So whether ADHD is suspected, diagnosed, or not even likely, if you have a “complex” kid, you probably know what we mean – and this is definitely for you.
Q. If I don’t find this useful, is there a guarantee?
A: Yes, we offer a no risk guarantee. If, after the program, you don’t feel like you have gotten value from it, let us know within 30 days of the program end at TheTeam@ImpactParents.com and your money will be refunded. Every penny.